My wife and I are separated and I just found out that....?

it's normal to feel anger, hate, frustration...a whole gambit of emotions when your marriage has failed and the other person moves on....this will p; kudos for you in understanding the kids are number 1!!!! She is obviously selfish, you are not....you cannot make her act the way you want her to or think she should; you can only control you. It will all work out, everything does, one way or another.